Nobody can hurt me without my permission

Three days back I was deeply hurt by a friend's words...I started feeling so bad that I cried over it and even shouted ( may be a bit swearing too..ofcourse inside my car..i dont have courage to say nethign directly to ne1) on what and how he said it...I had to go on a drive to make myself get over that. When I came back from the drive, I came across this quote" Nobody can hurt me without my permission" by Mahatma Gandhi. I have this habit of reading a quote a day and putting it on my desk and interestingly I got this on that day. So very apt and made me think about it for 3 days now and I thought y not write a blog about it.

First when I read this sentence, I just thought it was a plain sentence telling us that no one has the right to make me fee like thrash or shit. But when I put more thought to it..I kinda figured out what Gandhi was trying to say. Ofcourse the main meaning that no one other than us can make us feel low. Just think how many times people just criticize without realizing what and how they are saying it to us. These are just individuals whom we meet in our daily life but they can say something which could make us feel shitty and its worse if it is a bad comment that can ruin our day or may be a week. But why does it affect us so badly? They are just words right...and individuals opinion are worth wat u pay for them...supposedly no1 could make me feel low about me besides myself...

I also saw something else Gandhi is trying to say...I shall split the quote for explaining.." Nobody can hurt me" + "except me". This shows that I have all ability to make me feel lower and cause harm to myself. By harm, I mean I could waste a day at work or a wonderful evening I could have had by having fun if not thinking about this crap.(Yes, it has happened to me a lot...I am trying hard not take it personally..but I guess I am way too much sensitive and should work to get rid of this character of mine which I am not at all proud of). anyways..went offtrack. So what happens when u r criticized or u hear something u don't want hear...u start being defensive, self- abusive and talk negativly to one self..

So what could be done about this...To start thinking about urself and appreciate about urself, ur good qualities..ur abilities and disabilities and understand urself better and start luving urself for what u r and care a damn about what others say. I am a person who believes in god, so I can say that God loves me for what I am and been giving me nearly everything I have ever wished for so y do I even care, bother, feel bad and get upset at myself on what people tell to me.

If some1 is critical may be I should start thinking if that statement was true indeed and if so..I should take it as a constructive statement..and think about working on it.. but if it was said in a blunt and rude way and not criticizing..then ask them to get lost...u know urself better than ne1

So basically when I analyzed this quote I just understood it meant " I am in control of my life and no 1 else". I have all right to decide all thoughts and reaction in my life and even if its a mundane stuff or a major , we are the only one who could decide and act to everything and importantly to everybody. I hope to work on this hereafters and see how much it helps me. I do need to improvise myself in several aspects and since something like this happ few days back I feel this is something important I should give priority to.

" Nobody can hurt me without my permission "

~ Take care
Ramya