Life - A Mystery

It was an eventful day yesterday! Finally for the first time in my life I had a girl's day out. It was exactly like how I imagined it alwayz to be. Sangita (intern in Garmin) was leaving back to Florida as her intern was getting over and so I decided to spend a day with her. We watched a movie and then went to the mall and got some dresses for me. Felt really good since the dresses were perfect fit for me. After that we met two more gals and we had a pool party where I gave the other three gals some tips on swimming as I was the only one who knew swimming. It was a fun night. During the whole day I spent with them I had lots of calls from my friends and seeing this Sangita popped up a single question which I dint know at that time would make me think so much for the rest of the night and today.

Seeing me being friends with so many guys, she asked me what would I do after wedding? I asked her what does she mean and she said with so many guys as friends whether I would be friends with them after wedding? At that time I casually replied her, thats a problem I should be facing after wedding and why should I think about it now. But later during the night and today I kept thinking about and thought what could happen. Do I really have to leave my friends behind for a new person in my life. Is that new person going to take so much priority in my life that I would forget all my friends? Will I accept to do anything for that guy? Is it fair enough? I really like my friends and will I have to leave them behind? All these were the questions which came as a flash in front of my eyes.

I thought a lot about it. I even discussed about it with my friends and got few views from them. One of them said that, when the time comes that I am married I would start giving higher priority to him. It kinda made sense, I would spend a lot of time with him that maybe I won't spend much time with my friends. But again what if he restricts me to talk. I then thought, I am capable enuf to either make him understand that I could manage both him as well as my friends at the same time and maybe he would agree to it. But again what if he gives me a choice and I had to choose. Even for this question, I thought even if I choose him, my dearest of my dearest friends would understand the reason as to why I am not being in touch with them. While thinking about this, I was wondering what would happen to me if before me one of my friend gets committed and what if I would have to restrict my friendship with him. Yes very well could happen in reality. But this is life right. It just keep changing. New people continue to enter our lives every now and then and we would need to change few stuff for them.

Thinking about this, it reminded me that while I left college 3 years back I felt really bad I was leaving my friends behind and coming to a new land where I did not have any friends, but slowly I made new friends here and life moved on. So I assume that life would move on similarly even after wedding. But really the thought scared me for a while, but thinking practically everyone does adapt themselves to situations. So I am sure I should be adapting myself to that new life when I really have to. After all, I have managed it pretty well all these days and won't I be able to continue to adapt it. But truly, thinking about it life is really a mystery and I don't know how it would turn out for me.